Deep love is best.
If you’re wondering what the best way to love is, a deep love is the best. Because you’ll get hurt. Your original heart is like a stone with lots of lumps sticking out. It will be hurt by loving deeply, and that hurt will carve into it, carving the corners away and making it into a smooth circle. That process hurts, but the shape becomes more beautiful, and you’ll become more enriched as a person. I guess that’s what love is.
Quality is more important than number or length.
By loving and being hurt, you come to understand the meaning of being hurt. Therefore, you come to understand people’s pain, and will stop hurting them through carelessness. But that’s only people who loved well. If you only search for quantity in love, it’s too meaningless. Love isn’t a question of number or length, it’s a question of quality. I want you to love very deeply.
What is a love that makes you grow up?
They say that love exists outside of reason, but I wonder how many people have really ever loved that much. Isn’t it important for people to become absorbed in something? It’s hard to find an object for that, but love is the one thing everyone can become absorbed in. Those who can’t even get absorbed in love are immature. I guess they’re in a state where they have a lot of impurites in their heart. On the other hand, people who can get absorbed in love no matter how old they become are always pure and beautiful. They shine brightly. They continue to mature as people.
Confessions of unrequited love…
You should confess. And tell them straight. There are girls who like to play cat and mouse, but if you do that with a man who is experienced with love it will backfire on you. If you confess, it might be a good result or a bad result, but as long as you tell them straight, it should leave an impression on them.
Painful unrequited love is important too
Heartbreak is necessary because it makes people mature, and it’s the biggest opportunity to live practicing self control. For example, those who have never suffered ill health don’t worry about their health. But those who have practice self control. Feeling unrequited love for someone means that you’ll live with self control over your heart. Those who think this is annoying are averting their eyes from something they have to face every day. For example, work, family, the rules of society… You won’t mature like that. To have a painful unrequited love is for your heart to develop a “safe amount” that’s enough to cover unreasonable things. You should encounter a new self when you do that.
Saying, “I’ll never love again”?
I wonder why people think of it that way. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been dumped, or two-timed, or three-timed. In an old TV commercial, a girl said to her boyfriend, “What do you like about me?” and was told “Your body”. And the girl was overjoyed at that answer, “I see, you like my body”. When I saw that, I thought, “I like this girl”. If it was an obsequious girl, she’d say, “You mean you don’t care about my personality?” The innocence in being happy to hear he likes your body is fascinating, and attractive to men. If you make a man think, “If I say this, she’ll get mad at me”, then you’re immature as a woman.
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